One issue that comes up a lot as an Executive Coach is “toxic” people. You probably know exactly what I mean and may have some of these in your life right now. They’re the folks who pretend to want to help you but actually hold you back or bring you down. They can be “friends” or family members – or even employees or team members. Make no mistake though, these people will actively hamper your ability to advance – they’re “deflators.”
I’m telling you now, plain and simple – choose to avoid them or put on your Teflon coat and let their negativity slide right off of you. Keep your eyes open too – because their toxins can come in the guise of protectiveness or helpfulness, but the real result almost always makes you feel incompetent or insufficient.
If you’re not sure if someone is toxic, just monitor how you feel after spending time with them:
Do you feel angry? Exhausted? Despondent? Frustrated? A “yes” to any of these will help you to identify a toxic person.
Once you begin to recognize and avoid toxic people, you’ll have an easier time seeking out people who resonate with you, people who want to help. Your life will flourish by focusing on the well of friends and colleagues who can provide advice, a sounding board, an introduction, or someone to give you a reality check before you make a key business decision.
So this week, work on avoiding the toxic people around you who create fires you have to waste time stamping out. You will have much more time and energy to create business acceleration and write a real success story in your life.
Christine Comaford, The Executive Coach
CEO of Mighty Ventures, Inc. and Business Accelerator
PS: Attend one of my Business Acceleration weekends. You can find these events all over the country – the schedule is up at http://BusinessAccelerationIntensive.com – and if you’re DEFINITELY ready, you might want to work with me one-on-one to nail your pitch. Reach out at http://smarttribes.wpengine.com/contact.