
Featuring case studies and proven techniques, Power Your Tribe provides a set of powerful neuroscience-based tools to help managers identify emotions, release resistance, end isolation, focus on outcomes, and course-correct for continued success.
*As originally seen on Forbes.com
Why do we do what we do? Because it feels good? Nope. Because it feels best. It’s our best choice on our behavioral menu at the given time.
Reality is what you say it is.
“I need your help, Christine,” said the Chief Revenue Officer. “Our sales and marketing people are overwhelmed by constantly changing legislation, the new markets we’re trying to penetrate are not opening up, we’re missing revenue projections, and the board is turning on the pressure. Everyone is discouraged and knows they need to shift their attitude but can’t seem to do it. Healthcare is a tough enough business without all this internal turmoil!”
The real issue has nothing to do with what happened or what needs to be done. It’s what it means that matters. The meaning determines how it feels. If shifting their attitude doesn’t feel good, they won’t do it. They will stay stuck.
First, let’s return to the fact that human beings will always reach for the best feeling available on their menu. The sales and marketing teams I mentioned above didn’t lack power, they lacked choices on their menu. In other words, to feel more powerful, we don’t need to turn off our emotions or ignore them. We need to get present to what we’re feeling and then associate better feelings with the behavior we want. We need to add better feelings to our menu. It’s all about choice.
If something feels bad, we call it bad. If it feels good, we call it good.
Let’s learn to regulate your emotional state. How are you feeling right now?
Take a moment to check in using our Emotion Wheel.
Understanding your emotions is key to improving how you feel.
Now, if you could regulate your emotional state, how would you like to feel? In some cases, you’ll just want to feel better than you feel now. If it’s a really uncomfortable feeling you might resist it, like if you’re in a difficult change scenario.
Release Resistance Via Consent
Resistance or rejection of the feeling isn’t going to help. What we resist, persists.
Here are the four steps to shifting your emotional state:
Reality is what you say it is. It’s seriously that simple.
Curiosity is essential in crafting your reality. It will help you to become more self-aware and to regulate your emotional state. You can choose how you feel. That’s how powerful you are.
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Featuring case studies and proven techniques, Power Your Tribe provides a set of powerful neuroscience-based tools to help managers identify emotions, release resistance, end isolation, focus on outcomes, and course-correct for continued success.
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