For all of you who couldn’t be there for my recent appearance at TEDx San Diego, I have to begin this blog by saying how amazingly humbled I was to be asked to participate and also by the outpouring of support from my team, the audience, and even from people I only know online. I have worked with a long list of industry and global leaders, and honestly, nothing has compared to standing on that stage and vulnerably sharing my biggest truth – in the simple hope that it might, just might, touch someone else.
This entire gig has honestly been an unbelievable experience for me – and far more than recognition or validation. It’s been an answer from the universe – which, of course is only half the battle. For an answer to really take hold, TRULY take hold, it has to take root within us – whether it comes from the universe or not.
I guess to understand why the answer HAS taken hold in me, you’d have to at least know my question – and maybe where it came from. When I was 7 years old my father told me I was supposed to be a boy, and as a girl, by the way, I wasn’t very pretty or smart.
And right there, my Question quickly sprung forth… Am I good enough?
Of course, at that time it sounded more like, “Oh my gosh—maybe I’m not good enough, maybe I’m a reject of some sort. If I’m not good enough, what am I going to do with my whole life ahead of me? Live some sort of inconsequential, substandard existence? Okay, maybe it took a little time to become that sophisticated, but you get the picture.
So I set out, Question firmly planted in my gut, and I started to ACHIEVE. Because I figured if I achieved enough, then maybe I’d have sufficient PROOF that I was, indeed, GOOD ENOUGH. And here I am, 41 years later, with an excessive amount of achievements – all in an attempt to make sure I am GOOD ENOUGH.
Has my Question been answered?
Well, that’s probably something that would take more than one blog to really respond to. What I really want to ask all of YOU is, “Has YOUR Question Been Asked???”
And that is where I will leave this subject for today!
Christine Comaford, The Executive Coach