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Even friends can be deflators. I’ve had some who’d run an endless tape loop about the same old complaints, over and over. I’d be emotionally drained after each call or visit. Eventually it struck me that they weren’t doing anything to improve their lives; for whatever reason, they wanted a lousy life. I knew I needed friends who shared my desire to be positive and progressive, so it was time to change the situation or say goodbye. In this case there are two things you can do. First, list all of the toxic person’s positive qualities. Hold these qualities in mind when you think of him or her. The toxic person might start to shift to become more positive since you are no longer reinforcing his or her negativity. (You can also use this process with your own fears or bad habits.) If this doesn’t work, then you’ll likely need to let go.

When you have to let go of destructive relationships, do it with compassion. Tell the person that he or she is a fine human being; your life is simply going in a different direction. You need to surround yourself with people who share your goals for self-improvement.