The bottom line is this: Until you’ve learned to dismiss your inner critic, your fears will feel like reality, not illusion. Anyone can fall into this trap.
Years ago, I had a friend who was five feet tall and a size 14. She was a regular gal, no high-powered job, no major advantages in life. Every day while she was getting dressed, she’d look in the mirror and say to herself, “Honey, how could you get more gorgeous? I just don’t know!” She’d date the most stunning guys right out of a GQ spread! She was attracting guys that matched the way she envisioned herself: HOT.
Meanwhile, back then, I was attracting guys who matched what I thought I deserved: bad boys who didn’t treat me with respect. That only changed when I remembered it’s all an illusion. So I picked an illusion that was empowering and started meeting smart, nice, cool guys. Recruit a trusted friend to be your sounding board, both for your self-image and for your body language. You need to be aware of the nonverbal messages you are sending to the world, because people are definitely reacting to them. I often get all sorts of crazy favors, such as fabulous hotel room upgrades and reservations at fully booked restaurants because my body language and tone of voice convey that I am worthy of these perks. I don’t convey a vibe of entitlement, which can put people off; it’s more of a “surely we can work something out together” vibe that includes the other person in the inner sanctum that I want access to. If you’re speaking professionally, hire a coach to check out your body language. Learn to stand and speak in a way that conveys: I’m here, I have value, I’m holding the floor.
If you’re ready to change your personal illusions and build one that supports the massive success you want and deserve, I hope you’ll join me at my Business Acceleration Intensive Workshop on September 18-20. For that entire weekend I’ll be personally mentoring a very small group of business. Only twenty participants will get to work with there. If you’re up to the challenge and ready to make the investment of both the time and the funds to attend ($1,997 early bird special), go to http://www.mightyventures.com/bai/ and reserve your spot.